Monday, November 23, 2009

Learned or rather copied

I have decided, well I decided awhile back but am now going to blog about it... My home and everyone in it tends to say the word "no" way more than they should!!

Let me digress a bit here...
When Isaac was about the age Ari is now I remember going into work (back when i worked during the day 2 days a week ahhhhhh the freedom) and talking to one of the doctors I work for/with about how he had developed this new thing that i really didn't like....

Whenever told he couldn't do or have something he would chew me out in his own language and stop his foot..and I told her "I don't know where he's getting this from" and she says to me "Well Janet, you know he's not in daycare or anything like that and he's to young to be learning this behavior on his own, typically they mimic/copy what they see at home"
I remember looking at her and saying "I don't think so, Chris nor I do this" and I wanna say within 15min. of this conversation she tells me to do something I don't want to do or someone else gets to do something I wanted to do and you know what.... yup you guessed correctly, I made a grumpy noise with intake of breath and stomped my foot...
IMMEDIATELY looked right at the doctor and she starts cracking up!!!!!! and no sooner is she laughing at me that I without any thought of it DO IT AGAIN as I turn to walk away......... She Laughs even harder at that.... DANIT she was right and I hate that!!!

Now back to the present.... With that knowledge in hand or head rather, I start to really pay attention to what I'm saying because you see BOTH of the bigger kids are ALWAYS saying No at the beginning of any sentence even if they agree with me they start it with No.....
Sure enough I'm doing it ALL THE TIME and I'm not even sure why, it's not needed to start any of the sentences that I use it in......Hmmmmmmm

Well after many weeks of observation I have come to the realization that I'm not the only "adult" in the house that is doing this and you know what I probably got it from him... yup that's right...

Now that I'm aware of this you would think it would be easy to fix..WRONG trying to get Mr. No pants to be aware is a totally different thing.....

Now I'm on a mission, kinda like his smoking......Maybe if I point this horrible offense out EVERY time he does it then it will stop????????or maybe he will read this and be more aware??????

We shall see, we shall see..........(evil laugh and wink)

On another note, I have made (really not all that new either) the discovery that I'm really unhappy with myself and the lack of filter that I have... I DESPERATELY want to be one of those mom's who no matter what's going on or how frazzled she is you wouldn't know it... I DESPERATELY want to be one of those moms who doesn't let her face and tone show how overwhelmed/stressed/frustrated she is when her kids are talking/bugging/driving her nuts... Sure we all have our moments but I'm unable to have "moments"... When it comes down to it I can't stand myself most days and really really really want to be able to at least internalize things in front of my kids more! much more!! I wanna be the mom that occasionally(like 1x every other day) has a "moment" not the every single many times in each day mom that I have become.....***sigh***
We'll see what happens!!

Lets see, anything else???????

Oh ya I'm lovin this thing for Christmas that a fellow blogger is doing with her kids and I think(know) we are going to do it too!! it should really help out with waste and $$!!!
It's the idea of getting your kids 4 things
Chris want's to add a "listen" to the list the music junkie that he is

Doesn't that sound so cool?!?!?! Thanks "Finding Chaos"

Now if only I knew of someone who was crafty who could make me tags with each child's name and each one say for example: Isaac then under it say "want" hmmmmmmmmmmmm, hint hint, wink wink...........


Dusty/333 said...

HOly crap.... that's a long A@* post and I have no way to read it alll..... but at the end, did I read that your skipping Christmas?

K J and the kids said...

I always hear what an ass I sound like through the voice of my children. and I think we ALL wish we could keep our cool in the heat of it.
It's like.....I can keep my cool keep my cool keep my cool and then lose it and THAT'S wht the kids copy. Why is that ?